bump!
try a dap of WD40, thats what I used andI haven't David. I'm not sure if you've installed one of these but once you have the harness installed in the grommet, it stiffens the rubber considerably. The groove is about an 8th inch from the front side that needs to seat in the firewall and the "new" rubber is not pliable enough to get a good start in the hole. As a last resort I may need to cut the grommet in half (around the dia.) where the harness seats and the connection should be tight enough to keep it in place. Is this a bad idea? I will try the soap though, but am having my doubts.