My mom is 84 and has been living alone. She has fallen 5 times in the past month and can not walk now. I took her to the hospital and CAT scan was done to find nothing broken. She has had 5 mini strokes and is showing signs of dementia from probable lack of blood supply and oxygen to areas of the brain. I have been staying with her when I was not working and had a care giver in the home. The physical therapist said she could not be alone and I checked her into an assisted living place because I was physically and emotionally worn out. She keeps asking me how long before she can go home and I told her when the Dr. Says it is safe to be home alone. I am in no position to quit my job and care for her as I have a mortgage to pay. I could use some prayer as I feel that is the only thing that can help.
Very stressed need prayer.
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My mom is 84 and has been living alone. She has fallen 5 times in the past month and can not walk now. I took her to the hospital and CAT scan was done to find nothing broken. She has had 5 mini strokes and is showing signs of dementia from probable lack of blood supply and oxygen to areas of the brain. I have been staying with her when I was not working and had a care giver in the home. The physical therapist said she could not be alone and I checked her into an assisted living place because I was physically and emotionally worn out. She keeps asking me how long before she can go home and I told her when the Dr. Says it is safe to be home alone. I am in no position to quit my job and care for her as I have a mortgage to pay. I could use some prayer as I feel that is the only thing that can help.
3: on the way.My mom had dementia for a couple years before we found out and she was living right next to us. It wasn't until one day she was all dressed up and ready to go for her doctor appointment but it was 2 AM and her appointment wasn't for another 13 hours. She couldn't understand until I took her outside and showed her how dark it was.
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Sorry to hear this, and I know exactly how you feel as my Mom went thru this exact same thing 10 years ago.
Prayers for your Mother and for you that God may give you strength.
Prayers for your Mother and for you that God may give you strength.
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I really appreciate the support and prayers I am praying that she will adjust and she has an insurance policy that will help a lot for the next 4 years. For now I need to take 1 day at a time and at least she is only 10 minutes from me and not the 40 minute drive to her house which I was doing on a regular basis. She was crying today due to the loss of her independence but I assured her of my love and that I want her to be safe with some assistance at a moments notice.
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Sending prayers your way, this is a stressful situation for all involved. Hopefully your Mom is on and able to take Eliquis/Pradaxa/Xarelto or some similar drug to diminish the chances of stroke/heart attacks from clots. Also good blood labs to be sure counts are in line and that there is not a treatable source of falling, other recent issues.
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My Mom was a VERY independent woman also. She hated the thought of going to one of those places, but she knew she needed help, and my Brother and I could not do the tasks she needed a female for. (My mom was VERY modest)
She made the decision herself to go to one, but we knew it hurt her deeply.
All one can do at this point is to assure them of our love and willingness to help in any at we can, and VISIT OFTEN!
I retired early and moved from Utah to be closer to her and to help care for the needs she had that staff was unable to do.
The caregivers at the facility told me most children almost never came. They mentioned to me that they had never seen a son stay overnight with his Mom before, which I did on many occasions.
Aging parents need more attention than the staff can give them, keeping in mind that most are there for just a paycheck and on a busy schedule.
Have a movie night with her often in her room. My Mom never liked watching movies alone, she wanted to share the time with others so she could further her enjoyment and talk to someone during and after. Same with meals, she hated to eat alone, but was too shy to go to the dining room, always opting for having her meal delivered to her room. She must have been so lonely.
Anything I can do, please don't hesitate.
God bless you and your family, and know that You never walk alone.
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I hope you're able to get everything worked out and to your benefit and your Mother. My mom was in a nursing home for some time before she passed away at 83 and even then there were good days and bad days. Take care and God Bless,prayers going out for you. 3:
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3:sent My mom died last June. We kept her @ the house for as long as we could. Put her in a nursing home 2 1/2 weeks later she died. Taking care of anybody is very hard. I can relate to your stress been there. What were here favorite places to visit? Get on google earth and "take her around the old neighborhood". Try to get out and talk to people close to you about what's going on. Better to get it out of your system then to let it build up inside. Take Care and keep us updated.
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Praying for you . Mike
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My mom has been diagnosed with dementia for some time. She's 93 years old. My Dad has gone through several surgeries involving his colon cancer and serious bladder infections. He now has a permanent use of a catheter and a colostomy bag, and his knees are gone.
He was living at home where one of my brothers was his caregivers during the day. My mom has had a caregiver since she almost set the kitchen on fire several times.
My Dad enjoyed his time at home especially on those days when he could putter around the yard, but my Mom's dementia started to create an animosity towards my Dad. Very unusual since they just celebrated their 75th Anniversary.
My dad's constant infections now have him confined to his bed in a convalescent home. There were times when he would be sent home but my Mom's verbal attacks on him made him appreciate his time at the convalescent home. Now it seems it will be permanent, but my Mom misses him and she frequently will ask where he's at because she forgets.
I love them both and my sister and four brothers look out for them. I live about 500 miles away from them but I try to visit them at least once a month.
Growing old is a bitch. I'll be 74 tomorrow, and the radiation treatment I had late last year left some side effects that seem to be disappearing. My biggest fear is not anything physical. It's mental, because I know the effect it has on the family when a parent no longer possess their mental faculties.
Good luck with your Mom and show her you love her.
Bob
He was living at home where one of my brothers was his caregivers during the day. My mom has had a caregiver since she almost set the kitchen on fire several times.
My Dad enjoyed his time at home especially on those days when he could putter around the yard, but my Mom's dementia started to create an animosity towards my Dad. Very unusual since they just celebrated their 75th Anniversary.
My dad's constant infections now have him confined to his bed in a convalescent home. There were times when he would be sent home but my Mom's verbal attacks on him made him appreciate his time at the convalescent home. Now it seems it will be permanent, but my Mom misses him and she frequently will ask where he's at because she forgets.
I love them both and my sister and four brothers look out for them. I live about 500 miles away from them but I try to visit them at least once a month.
Growing old is a bitch. I'll be 74 tomorrow, and the radiation treatment I had late last year left some side effects that seem to be disappearing. My biggest fear is not anything physical. It's mental, because I know the effect it has on the family when a parent no longer possess their mental faculties.
Good luck with your Mom and show her you love her.
Bob
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